A mother of three children aged five and over has caused a stir after admitting she doesn’t feel like staying at children’s birthday parties because it’s a waste of her “precious time”.
Jai, from the US, claims she doesn’t want to be “miserable” by watching her child have fun while they “small talk” with other parents.
The 33-year-old added that attending children’s parties is a “major inconvenience” for her and host parents should supervise any children attending.
In a tik tok Video Jai listed the four reasons she wouldn’t stay if one of her three children was invited to a birthday party – which sparked a heated debate.
Mum-of-three Jai, 33, claims children’s birthday parties are a ‘major inconvenience’ for her and a waste of her ‘precious time’
“I don’t want to stay at your kid’s friggin’ birthday party, and I won’t stay,” she said in a viral TikTok video
“I don’t want to stay at your kid’s friggin’ birthday party, and I won’t stay,” she began.
“I have three children. So when one of them comes home, the other two are instantly angry. So I have to de-escalate the situation.
“Your child’s birthday party is causing me great inconvenience.”
Next, Jai complained that most parents are vague about what their child likes, making it difficult to buy gifts.
“I have to answer, ask you what things your kids like because you probably didn’t put it in the invite, find out what I’m going to buy your kid, spend my money, wrap it up, and then take my kid there.” Where you’ve decided they need to be by that date and time,” she said.
In addition, Jai is not willing to sacrifice her time for someone else’s child.
“Then you want me to volunteer two to four hours of my day — because it’s not a paid job.” If I look at it like a day’s work and how much I’m making, my time is valuable,” she continued.
Jai added that parents hosting the party shouldn’t complain if they have to look after all the kids present (stock image)
Jai added that parents hosting the party shouldn’t complain if they have to watch over all the kids present.
She said, “Some of you guys are like, ‘I don’t wanna babysit all the kids, I gotta plan a party’…that’s a party, girls.”
“You invite a bunch of kids to run around your house because it’s beneficial for you and your kid to have a good time.” I don’t have to be unhappy when I see my kid having fun. I don’t have to make small talk with a group of parents.
“I take it that if you’re a parent who bothers to spend as much money as a birthday party costs, you’re probably a reasonably decent parent, and so will my child.” Good for about two hours with 15 other children.
“I don’t know why some of you are so ‘floating’.” What can’t you do? It’s two hours. You can’t even get much done in two hours. I don’t understand.’
The video has since gone viral, sparking debate in the comments.
‘Wow. I’ve never been to a party where the parents didn’t stay. I have four children and have never done it. Is that a northern thing? Really curious,” one wrote.
“People can’t be trusted anymore.” “Maybe some will stay to keep the kids safe,” said another.
A third said: “No I don’t leave my little mess starters with just any random person I’ve never met before hoping they’ll babysit my kids.”
However, other parents sided with Jai and understood her reasoning.
“I’ve never been asked to sleep over at a children’s party. Never. and my daughter attends many birthday parties,” one mother wrote.
“Unwritten rule.” Leave your children to me and do something or nothing. I’ll see you in a few hours. i will do the same $20 in one card. Boom. “Done,” said another.
“I never said at my childhood friends’ birthday parties that my parents never stayed at my kids’ birthday parties,” wrote another.
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